Ingroup, Outgroup, Fargroup

I suspect that—to borrow a tripartite distinction from the psychiatrist and blogger Scott Alexander—most people...are fine with their ingroup ("antiracist, anticolonial, anticapatalist, proqueer feminists of every color and from every people") and fine with the fargroup (pigeons), but the outgroup? The outgroup that lives in your city and votes in the same elections you do? Maybe not so much. Does the project of making kin extend to the couple down the street from you who have five kids, who attend a big-box evangelical church, and who voted for the wrong person in the last presidential election? And who, moveover, are a little more likely to talk back than pigeons are?

-Alan Jacobs, Breaking Bread with the Dead, 33.